Sunday 21 September 2014

Five months

Dear Friends of the Blog,

It was five months ago yesterday that Carlin entered into GLORY! 

Do you ever wish you knew more about what loved ones who have died have experienced over the time since they passed away?  I sometimes wonder why we were not given more details, but then I come back to the fact that it must be so far beyond our human ability to comprehend, that He gave us just bits of information.  When we get there I imagine we will say, "Oh that's what that verse was talking about!"

I am learning to handle life alone, amongst many friends and loved ones, I am alone.  Not lonely, though, which I'm sure is hard to understand.  I told friends yesterday that some of the time I feel strong and able for anything, and then I have bits of time when I feel as fragile as a feather blowing in the wind.  There are bright, beautiful, wonderful days, and there are dreary days—and I'm not talking about the weather.  Devotions are precious times of hearing my Father talk to me.  I praise Him for His presence.

A dear friend has written a book called Caring for Widows, You and Your Church Can Make a Difference.  (Wesley M. Teterud, Baker Publishing, ISBN 0-8010-8909-3)  I read it a few years ago, and then I read it after Carlin passed away.  It was more profound this last time.  It's a very practical, well written book.  I've recently given a copy to my church leaders, as they are beginning to make plans on how to minister to widows.  I've been asked to be a resource person with them as well as with a funeral director in Bellingham, who wants to begin a drop in place for widows.

It is interesting how folks want to talk with you.  Many say, "How are you doing?"  And of course, "I'm fine," is the correct answer to the question.  Some offer specific help.  "Would you like me to come mow your lawn on Tuesday?"  Widows need help, I think, especially initially as there are so many details to be tended to, so many things they now need to learn to handle alone.  We would like to be the one doing for others, and find it hard to dredge up something others could do for you when they ask, "Is there something I could do?"  Everything costs money, services cost money which we have to be careful about, so acts of service from fellow believers is truly a blessing and a gift.  Abundantly appreciated.

I have a sister and sister-in-law in failing health who need my care.  I am weighing when I can travel to be with them and if I'm up to it yet.  Thank you for praying and caring.  God will bless you for it.

Love,

Marcia

Wednesday 10 September 2014

Thinking of you today

Hi Marcia,
 
I was thinking of you today and thought I’d check in. I took a look at your blog, and sure enough, found some updates from you. Thank you for your open life as you walk through this valley. I still think of Carlin’s interest in using technology and how pleased he would be that technology has been a tool to bring and to send messages of comfort.
 
We’ve just gone through another valley from afar, with the death of Hugo Reimer. Hugo was the pastor who prayed with Bob when Bob decided it was time to give his life control back to God. As we had prayed with and for them through their journey, it was a fresh heart wrenching a week and a half ago when Connie and their daughter Rinette were back in our Vanderhoof church and talked with the church family.
 
So hard to understand God’s timing and plan.
 
I can’t remember who it was I was talking with about Carlin’s memorial service – likely either Mel Fehr or Denis Federau. I had commented on how heart encouraging it was. Either Mel or Denis had quickly responded with, “That wasn’t a service; that was a benediction.” I agreed. It felt as though you and Carlin had planned the service as a gift to those who were there, in the way you pointed us all to the one who gives life. It is great that others are able to watch it.
 
We pray for you and the girls and their families often as you come to mind. As the uninvited tears start to show up less often and as your heart starts to adjust to feeling warm as you put on the earrings rather than sad, my prayer is for you to have a sense of purpose in your days. I’m so glad for your continued connection with friends. Blessing on you Marcia.
 
June